The concept of divorce dates back almost 4,000 years ago in some cultures. There were certain moral or religious ramifications that would justify a man divorcing his wife. As silly as some of those reasons may sound today, I am sure of the fact that most people do not handle divorce any better than those civilizations did thousands of years ago.
It is through divorce that I am thankful for the woman my ex-wife is all over again.
That concept may sound absurd to some people yet I challenge those who view it that way. Can you not find reasons today that made you appreciate that person in the past? If not, you are sadly mistaken and your priorities are incredibly misplaced by your own ego, especially if children are involved.
It has taken months for us to get out of the woods and get consistently to a point of being cordial with one another. However, a child is created in the representation of two people's love for one another, there is nothing more sacred than that. Nothing. In divorce, to consistently fight with that same person is to remove integrity from the concept that you put your children first.
We want our children to be better than what we are. If I find myself to be an incredibly passionate person, able to forgive the greatest of trespasses and a very loving person than I have set the bar high for my son. Furthermore, it is also my duty to make sure he beats my mark. To me, that commitment is parenthood. How can anyone expect to teach their child any of that if they hold some grudge towards the mother?
Let me not misrepresent myself, the ship her and I had has long since parted and is not coming back to port to dock ever again. It was infamous for navigating the roughest of waters yet we were able to create the most beautiful child I have ever laid eyes on. Paradoxically profound.
I respect her for making the sacrifices she did to bear this child and that deed will never go forgotten. Through divorce and time, I am beginning to find the person I adored so long ago. She is a great human being and a wonderful mother and I will appreciate her always.
I am finally able desert this bitterest of resentments towards her and that lifts the most incredible weight from my chest.
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